A Word to Today’s Adolescents
Very little is known of Jesus’ first thirty years beyond these events: 1) Jesus’ birth; 2) His appearance in the Temple at about twelve years of age; 3) His baptism in the Jordan when He was approximately thirty years old; and 4) His temptation in the wilderness.
The data is relatively sparse compared to what He did in the last three years, but the few facts we do know certainly bear studying.
Speaking as a human who needs all the aid he can get in studying the life of Jesus, it would have been so helpful to have a record of Jesus’ life between the ages of 13 and 19. But of course God knew what He was doing when He did not include those years in the sacred record.
Without speaking rashly, I can say I would give five years of my life to have a moderately complete record of Jesus’ teenage years. To me it seems such a record would be very helpful. But the only tidbit of information from that time of Jesus’ life is contained in the account of His trip to Jerusalem at twelve years of age with His parents. (Luke 2.41-51) And at that time He was just on the threshold of entering the teen years.
Here is a tremendous thought that hit me like a “revelation,” but of course it is much less significant than a revelation and I am sure many others before me have had the same illumination. The thought is this: Jesus said to His parents, “Wist ye not that I must be about my Father’s business?” (Luke 2.49) Jesus knew at that early age – this stripling of a lad – He knew who He was: He was the Son of God. By a little extrapolation we can say that Jesus knew He was God Himself!
Following is the scriptural logic behind this assumption on my part: As every Jew was taught from infancy that there is but one God, Jesus knew that if He were the Son of God, which would make Him a God, He would have to be the one only God. It is likely that with the knowledge that He was the Son of God, immediately came the full awareness of who He was – this lad named Jesus was God the Creator of the entire universe!
By a little more reasoning we can view it as a distinct probability that Jesus was also flooded with the knowledge of the enormity of the suffering and sacrifice He would have to make because He was God, like whom there is no other, and He was love, like which there can be no other. What person in the whole cosmos could have so much to sacrifice and what person could agonize so greatly? The human Jesus was unique in this sense: There is no other one in the universe who has divinity as their literal Father and no one else could experience such a loss as that suffered by Jesus when the beloved Father turned His back on Jesus. And of course Jesus was a witting accomplice in this awesome desolation of Himself.
We know, of course, that He never sinned; still what were His experiences in His inner self? What battles raged in His mind during His teen years? How did He relate to His peers? We will never know, and we have to let it go at that. Such matters are best left in the hands of God.
Perhaps the Israelite culture of Jesus’ day did not allow its youth the same individual freedom of expression that today’s youth has. But one fact is clear: In any age or any culture there is a transition period between childhood and the adult years in which the urge for individual expression and the strictures of society on non-adults will cause a certain amount of stress within the non-adult (teenager).
It is a tension and feeling of frustration ranging from feeling mildly irked with society to a major upheaval within the teenager. Whether “mildly irked” or “major upheaval” is the operative term, there has to be some adjusting done on the part of the teenager. It has been amply demonstrated over the years that society or good ol’ Mom and Dad are not apt to change their manner of doing things to alleviate the temporary discontent of youth that will pass with the years.
The old myth of “growing pains” that referred to the physical stress that accompanies bodily growth is a more viable theory when it is applied to the discomfort and turbulence that attend the development of the whole youth’s being – spirit, soul and body. Depending on the severity of the problem it could require only minimal help for the teenager or the outside help of a wise, trained Christian counselor. Nor should we overlook the proven efficacy of the prayer raised to God in faith.
The Teenager Needs Help from Others
If you are one who is mired in the teenage years, I don’t have to tell you they are a turbulent time of life. They are a furiously churning rapids you are trying to navigate before you have attained sufficient navigational skills for the journey. You greatly need the help of one who is older and wiser to help you get through the rapids without tipping your frail craft over.
But not every older person has gained the wisdom that enduring the teenage years can bring. Don’t listen to every paunchy middle-aged or snowy headed senior “counselor” who wants to give you advice. You can usually get the “feel” of someone who wants to tell you how you should do and be at this time of life. The sincerity or lack of it will show through, but even then, you need someone who has been through what you are confronting and is now serving God. Sincerity is vital, but so is wisdom that comes from above and is acquired the hard way, by severe testing.
I will add this: There may be some young adults who failed miserably in their teenage testing, but who have somehow made it through and can look back and see where they failed and why. If they are now walking close to God – hear them. They can help you. They should admit, first, that they were not examples of how you should act, but they can tell you how they made their lives worse by not listening to their parents, counselors and right-thinking friends who had faced the dangers before them.
There Is Some Good in the ‘Old Ways’
Let me remind you teenagers (who do not yet know what life is all about): The “old ways” are not necessarily wrong – but that does not mean they are right simply because they are the “old ways” and possess a special kind of merit. But you, as one who is in the midst of the chaotic teen years, don’t always have the wisdom to determine what is wrong and what is right. You should not look on your parents and counselors as stodgy old people just because they are – well, stodgy and old. What do stodginess and age have to do with it? These middle-aged individuals are persons who once were young and had the same natural rebellious attitude you have. The attitude, it seems, comes with the territory. But, by the grace of God, these older individuals came through the rapids, wiser and better persons than before they entered that turbulent time of life.
So look to your godly parents and your Christian counselors and even your right-thinking friends who have not too long ago been jostled and nearly upended in the same waters in which you are now perilously flip-flopping. These are people who can help you; they have been there, done that.
If you were about to go hiking on a dangerous trail known for the mountain lions lurking nearby, would you prefer to hear advice from an unseasoned hiker or from one who had actually faced a cougar and had come away with his life? What can a novice hiker tell you? He hasn’t even set foot on the trail, much less encountered a deadly mountain lion. Your “parents, counselors and right-thinking friends who have faced the dangers before you” have a lot to offer you. Listen to them. It may be that you will yet come out of this topsy-turvy time of life alive – banged up and scarred, but alive and fit to continue your journey, a more mature and wiser human being.
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